laurus vital chemnitz I have to confess, this month’s “experiment” actually started in September, but I never finished writing the blog due to that busy back-to-school adjustment time. I also started to potty-train my 2 year old, which meant trading in my computer for a steam cleaner.
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conseil imprim tarbes view I do NOT want my kids to get to this point. I want them to look beyond themselves and develop compassion for others. So Joel and I came up with a different “you want it, you earn it” idea.
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We had a heart to heart with Morgan on how she will earn her room. We saw in her reaction that she realized this was going to be harder than having to do outward things like chores. We put up a calendar for the summer of 2012, and based upon how good or bad she treats her sister, she could get her room sooner or later, respectively. We picked the summer of 2012 for two reasons. First, it is when her youngest sister, Emmy, could be old enough to share a room with Meagan. Second, having it be nine months away eradicates the “faking it” factor, as we know she can modify her behavior for a short period. However, I am pretty sure she can’t fake it for as long as nine months - therefore it will allow us to see if her heart truly loves her sister or if she is just “washing the outside of the cup.” We also started a family “you want it, you earn it” jar. It is for a one-day trip to Universal Studios during Spring Break, which would cost about $400 (we’ll already be in Florida). Everyone will need to contribute their hard-earned money to it if we are going to go!
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As expected, Morgan is treating her sister like a queen. This is probably the longest we have ever seen our older two girls not fight. She really must want her own room! Time will tell, however, if it is just outwardly controlled behavior or if she is really trying to have a softer heart towards Meagan. As far contributions to our vacation jar, we have $115! This is mostly due to us dumping in our coin jar (coins we have found while cleaning the house over the last year) and because mom had a birthday and asked for money towards the jar in lieu of presents.
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Morgan is still treating Meagan much better, but we did have one or two days when she was a complete jerk to her. At this point she has had more days moved up on her room calendar than being moved back, so the good news is that she is ahead of the game. Our Harry Potter jar (which we call it now since that is the main reason we want to go to Universal Studios) has $200 – almost half-way there!
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This was the month where we saw clearly that Morgan’s “changed” behavior was in good part a superficial act. This was a good opportunity though to talk to Morgan about what it means to truly love her sister. We have been praying in the morning before school for God to help her with this, and going over examples in the bible of what sacrificial love looks like. As for our HP jar, we are up to $340 (thanks to Christmas money from relatives).
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To save you reading time, and myself some graphic making, we will fast forward another five months and give you the synopsis of how all this turned out!
faute de preuve film visit Morgan actually earned her room ahead of schedule by a few weeks. We were nervous that as soon as she received her own room, her attitude would revert back towards Meagan the way it was before the experiment started, but so far it has not.
drogue en vente libre go As for our $400 vacation fund, we actually saved up $500, which was an extra treat because we used it to dine at The Three Broomsticks (Butterbeer anyone?) at the Wizarding World of Harry Potter. Since none of my kids had ever been to an amusement park - even a small one - it was quite an experience for them. We made a full day of it, and no one complained how tired they were, or the long wait times to get on some rides!