http://leveljoin.live/2019/04 selbst wenn broschüre One side effect of entitlement is to accumulate more than you need. mala kette knüpfen We are surrounded by consumerism and there is no way to escape it unless you live the life of a sasquatch. “Consumerism infiltration” begins when you are only a few months old and doesn’t end until you’re, well, probably dead.
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http://keepsworry.live/2019 schwangerschaft links liegen “All this choice has two negative affects on people. One effect, paradoxically, is that it produces paralysis rather than liberation. With so many options to choose from, people find it very difficult to choose at all….The second effect is that even if we manage to overcome the paralysis and make a choice, we end up less satisfied with the result of the choice than we would be than if we had fewer options to choose from.”
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am hals ritzen On the other side of the spectrum are those who have little to no choice. Our family sponsors a few kids overseas who come from very poor countries. One of these children is an 11 year old girl from India who lost her father, and her mother didn’t have the money to feed her anymore so she was sent to a children’s home. Many of the kids in her situation don’t own a pair of shoes. http://chooseteam.live/2019/04 dritte katze charakter They have very few choices, if any at all. If they are one of the lucky few that get a sponsor, then they will probably receive one pair of shoes. http://brokesure.live/2019/04 kevin van wait And you know their response? Gratitude. Deep, sincere gratitude. On the other hand, my middle child has 8 pairs of shoes, and it doesn’t even register in her 7 year old brain that she needs to be grateful for having so many when others have none. It is so wrong, and entitlement is the invisibility cloak that covers that part of our psyche that should be registering contentment and gratitude, even if it is just one of something.
http://christbunch.live/2019/04 alkohol medizinische verwendung So we are going to spend a month learning to live with little to no choices, and to be grateful with having one of something. Hopefully by the end of the month we will have some of that invisibility cloak removed and will learn to be more content and grateful for what we have, even if there is only one (or none)!
We spent some time deciding what things to only have one of for our “one is enough” experiment. I think we settled on two main areas: our dishes and our shoes. Washing the dishes is the one chore my husband can tolerate, so he came up with the idea of having only one dish per person. He pointed out how many times we run the dishwasher a day (at least once) and how we seem to have more dishes than our cupboards can handle. So we all now get one dish, one bowl, and one cup. Each person is also responsible for cleaning their own dish or they either don’t eat or they eat on a dirty dish. The second area I chose, and I chose shoes, simply because it is a pet peeve of mine that we have too many. I swear our shoes procreate in the middle of the night, as half the time it looks like a shoe store barfed in our entryway. So everyone is picking one pair of shoes, and that is the ONE pair of shoes they get for the whole month.
Well, I guess I am learning our family has little self-control. Since we still have out all the remaining dishes and shoes, when we get lazy, we just cheat and get a different dish (or paper plate) or a different pair of shoes. So I spent the week boxing up all of our dishes and all of our shoes. I discovered a number of shoes and dishes that we have not used in a while, so those I put in a good will box. Now we are FORCED to stick with our one dish or pair of shoes. I did notice one interesting thing with each area. For the dishes, I realized that we have way more guests over to eat than I thought, almost once a day. After a week of not being able to offer them a dish, I made a “guest” dish section. As for the shoes, I am noticing the kids are getting better with not losing their shoes, because if they can’t find them, they don’t get to do things like going over to a friend’s house to play.
Shockingly, my most phlegmatic child is kicking all our butts in consistently washing her dish after each meal. We are noticing that it takes many days, not just one, to fill the dishwasher. Joel justified why he needs three pair of shoes, but other than that everyone else seems to not mind having only one pair of shoes. Having fewer shoes makes life a bit easier, and the front closet has never had to be straightened up or cleaned since we put the rest of the shoes away. There is nothing in there anymore to make it messy!
So we are into week four of our one pair of shoes and one set of dishes experiment, but I feel we are getting accustomed to them, if not accepting of them. So we need to turn up the heat a bit and expand it into other areas now. Where would be really hard to not have a choice? What do each of us hold dear, where we expect or demand a choice? For me, I think it is with music (actually food too, and TV shows, exercise, oh boy my list is long...). But I will choose music, because my listening to it is a daily ritual, and I am constantly jumping around different genres as I drive, work on the computer, or clean. For Joel, I need to think about it more (I will update you next week). For Morgan, it is hands down her books (her library is out of control). For Meagan, it is clothes (she changes her outfits three times a day). For Emmy, well, probably her toys (THAT should be fun to try and enforce playing with just one toy)!
So mom upped the ante, and some of us fared well while others did not. I realized it was not that hard to not listen to music for a week, and in hindsight, I would of had someone else other than me pick my item to give up. Joel gave up coffee a week, and did fine (I think...). I caught Morgan a few times trying to sneak a book, and I made her go outside instead. Meagan had a meltdown (or two, maybe three?) over not having clothes choices, which makes me VERY nervous about when she gets older and is a teenager! Emmy just did not understand very well the one toy rule, which was often broken when we went on playdates. But outside her frustration, she ended up finding regular household items to play with once she got bored with the one toy.
This was a fantastic experiment. It had so many side benefits! The house was cleaner, decisions were made quicker, and I think it clicked with some of us that we need to be very grateful for what we have around us. Such abundance! With a few exceptions, we really didn't miss or was bitter about having only one of something. We definitely will be redoing this experiment in the near future, and for the immediate future, we are paring down many of the multiple things we have.