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http://tellpool.download sæbedispenser facetteret glas We told the kids about “Make-It” Christmas, and surprisingly they were all on board. They were curious if “Santa” would still be visiting with his present, and we hadn’t thought about that. With the younger one still thinking Santa exists, and seeing this is probably the last year of her believing in Santa, we decided to allow the one Santa gift. So it won’t be 100% of a “Make-It” Christmas, but it will be close. As for making things, our 8 year old decided she would start right away, so off she went with paper, glue and pens. Also, we bought Paul Tripp’s latest book “Come Let Us Adore Him,” a daily advent devotional, and we have been reading a section each of the nights we are together. At the end of each section, there are discussion questions pertaining to some aspect of Christ’s birth, which has really required us and our children to think and interact with God’s word.
Sounds like everyone is well under way making things for people. However, two interesting things arose this week in light of it – my bad attitude and my middle child’s bad attitude.
My bad attitude (this is mom speaking) came as I realized how much time making presents would really consume. In my busy life (as in all of our busy lives), time is a precious commodity. Instead of popping on Amazon and ordering a gift, which takes 10 minutes (if that), now I was knee deep into making things, which was taking 4 to 10 hours per item. All the while watching the house get messier, laundry building up, and so on. So I had to have a bit of an attitude adjustment, realizing that this is a sacrifice worth giving, and I’ll eventually get to the house. Once I worked through my crappy attitude, I began to enjoy the process. I also found that when my mind was on the person whose gift I was making, it was easy to turn my thoughts towards praying for them – something I should be doing more often!
As for my 13 year old’s attitude, this came in the form of her realizing she wasn’t going to get an expensive pair of shoes ($113!) she had her eyes on – not even from “Santa.” It wasn’t the price alone that we objected to (for people with feet problems we understand that some well-built, proper shoes that last a long time sometime come with a high price tag and are necessary), but it was because they were the latest trendy and cool item to own. However, we aren’t total ogres – we did tell her that if she really wanted them, she could save up her money and buy them herself. But nope, that wasn’t an option for her. So we have some entitlement issues there with our middle child that we need to keep working on, but we are glad this experiment brought it to the light.
As for trying to serve others more, for family night we participated in writing Christmas cards to juveniles incarcerated at a local youth detention center, collecting and donating items for the needy, and removing snow from our neighbors driveway multiple times.
Everyone is a busy little beaver making gifts! And everyone seems to have a good attitude this week. However, we are finding it harder to read our advent devotional reading each night, as it seems as if none of us are ever home at the same time. This means we often have to read two in a row, which doesn’t allow us to reflect as deeply as we would like on each daily topic. On the plus side, the reason for not being around is due to our reconnecting with other people. It’s nice to be able to make seeing everyone a priority.
What a fun Christmas! There was a different level of excitement with gift giving this Christmas than in years past. Despite some last minute gift-making on Christmas morning (names will go unmentioned…but it wasn’t the parents!), by the time we were all sitting around the Christmas tree, we all had handmade gifts to give to each other. In fact, some gifts were so touching that they evoked “misty eyes.”
So what did we all make? Here is the rundown:
Emmy made: Mug with her artwork for dad (plus bottles of hot sauce), pot holder with her artwork for mom, keychain with her artwork for Meagan and a sketchbook for Morgan (with the cover displaying a picture she made).
Meagan made: Snowglobe for Emmy, a teabag tree for mom, a painting for Morgan, and a set of drink coasters for dad.
Morgan made: An opossum ceramic plate for mom, a HUGE (5-feet long) stuffed animal for Emmy, a recipe book for Meagan, and a painting for dad.
Mom made: Hot sauce for Joel, a photo album and home movie for Emmy, a photo album and home movie for Meagan, and a large cozy blanket for Morgan.
Dad made: A wine tasting and aroma kit for Kathryn inspired by a wine show we’ve been watching, a cooking kit for Emmy, a cooking kit for Meagan, and framed artwork for Morgan.
So what are the conclusions of this monthly experiment? Originally, the burden for doing this particular experiment had to do with how entitlement is breaking down our connections with other people, as well as the hypothesis that materialism/consumerism (a self-focus perspective) also plays a part in eroding relationships. Therefore, the question I posed to the family was “Having set aside your drive for the latest thing, and having both given and received handmade gifts that had personal meaning, what are your thoughts about a 'Make-It Christmas'?” Here were the answers:
Emmy: “I liked it better than last year’s Christmas. I felt better in a loving way.”
Meagan: “I felt special because each gift was specially hand-made for me.”
Morgan: “It was a pretty exciting Christmas. I felt it was more thoughtful because of the effort we put in, and that made the gifts mean more."
Joel: “I was required to be more thoughtful than usual and the time that I spend pondering what each person would want brought us closer together.”
So all in all, it was an overall positive experiment that I hope will be remembered.
...and if you are curious about what a few of the handmade gifts looked like, below is a picture of some of them!